It's a man's world (?)

..indeed it is. I got this book from my dear friend Charlie "He's not that into you" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. It's terrible. A truly terrible book. And terribly true. As it reads on the back "men are not that complicated, even if they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages". So the whole book is about that all the excuses we make for men not calling, not asking us out, not anything really and just leave us feeling confused and needy, we just need to scrap them. I hated reading the book, but on the same time I must say I was happy I did. I should have read it so much earlier though, so I for instance wouldn't have spent time thinking that the guy I fell in love with three years ago, really was interested in me, but just...not coming out with it. Or some other similar excuse for him never being able to see me or taking any initiative. But on the same time giving me hints and keeping me warm. Why? Just to... keep me warm of course, and because he daredn't tell me the truth.

Bah, very big note to self: don't go into this trap again. Easier said than done since finding someone who is really interesting isn't that easy, and of course you get enthusiastic and optimistic. Bah again. So, no more of that. Ever.

But then, sometimes I feel it's all a man's world? That they set the rules and we are supposed to know them, and play accordingly?! I mistakenly signed up for these newsletter recently, and keep getting emails about "How to keep the man of your dreams" and "How to make him stay", and all this about men leading and we play along. Hey, if I am interested, I will not try and hide this and play games! I want it to be easy and simple and I don't have to think! And the sad thing is those times that I am not that interested (which honestly is 9 times out of 10), the guys go crazy. The moral of this song is: go for the less interesting, for the other ones you will scare away anyway. So, a compromise relationship is what I can anticipate. No thanks, then I 'd rather stay single for ever.

And a last note on this, if it isn't a man's world, why then isn't there a billion-market for similar books for men? Maybe because women are so bloody complex that it is not worth it!