Mathematical philosophies

Went to SPA with my lovely friend "the Oracle from Chiswick" yesterday. We spent the whole day in walking around like two tired zombies in white outfits. Paddling around in too big flip-flops. When we left I felt all cleansed out. Not a pore left with old champagne-parties, not a muscle tense from job/life/existance-worries, and best of all, a mind that saw the foggy London sky in a much clearer way. For spending a whole day with the Oracle in this closed environment is better spent than 3 days with a therapist.

Top of the Pops with the Oracle this time was the in-depth discussions about the Oracle's famous love-equation. According to The O, in order for a relationship and love to work out the following factors need to be in place:

Nose: Attraction, Pheromes.
Heart: Warm feelings of love.
Brain: Logic, rationality, sense

Hence, you cannot only be screamingly attracted to a person and want to tear his clothes off and make 100 babies (focused on production..) (NOSE), you also have to really like his person for the way he is without wanting to change him (HEART). Finally the BRAIN cannot be left out. As lovely as a tribe leader from the jungle would be, this might prove a very difficult match in the long run.

And during The O's insightful single-period (she is now very happily married) she also added another factor to the equation :TIMING. And the theory was that timing stands above everything else. So the equation developed to:

(HEART+BRAIN+NOSE)*TIMING

And as we discussed yesterday we concluded that HEART can develop as you go along. You will probably not love a person straight away, these are feelings that will come later. Brain CAN also be adjusted even it a person seems completely impossible to start with. NOSE however, can never be changed. If you don't have the right attraction to start with, it will most likely never develop. This can be a bit depressive sometimes. It is not difficult to find good men, but you just cannot imagine being close to them. My history is very much nose-oriented. As most people's histories are. It's very easy to just be super-attracted to someone and just hope that the rest will come along too. Often a source of disappointment.

And then TIMING. Question is, is timing really dominating the other elements? The O is certain here. If a person is not in the right timing for a relationship, are all the other factors are pointless to discuss. A person needs to be ready for love and for relationship. Basta.

I'm not really that sure. I am an optimist and not as rational as The O. I hope that the other factors will overtake the timing-question and just wash over all obstacles. It might take time and be a bit bumpy on the way. To me, the equation would rather be:

(HEART+BRAIN)*NOSE=TIMING

To me I believe Timing is more of an excuse because the other factors are missing or because people are so screamingly afraid of being hurt. It would of course be absoultely lovely to meet someone where all the factors are in place, including timing. But isn't it more beautiful to fight for love? To really make a true effort for things to develop in the right way? I think so. Love will lead the way.

Halleluja.