Secret truths?

Working like mad and should not be blogging. But need some therapy here in my lonely office. Seeing mr Sketch for lunch in about 2 hours. Will be fun. I am trying not to be too enthusiastic though. Keep getting these ridiculous emails from a man called Christian Carter about "How to catch a man and to keep him". This guy has made a fortune on "helping" women out in finding men. Which is basically all about keeping cool and don't rush into things. Which is what women have known in all times. Why I don't just unsubscribe to the emails? Because they intrigue me somehow. According to Mr C, these are the most common things women do when they realize that a man is pulling away (which only makes it worse):

A) Pretending you don't want anything serious either and keep on sleeping with the man "casually" in hopes that things will grow from the "physical relationship"
B) Staying close to him by trying to become his "best friend" as you help him in his life and with his problems - all the while imagining the "payoff" of a real relationship for your good deeds once he recognizes how great you are
C) Trying to make him jealous by telling him you're seeing other guys, even if you're not. Or going out with other guys and doing things withthem not because you like them, but because you want him to find out and want you back
D) Getting pissed off at him and telling him he's dumb, immature, and acting like a little BOY...and that he's just scared of a real relationship and a commitment - and then trying to get him to have a relationship with you to "fix" himself
E) Trying to make him interested in you by complimenting him, doing nice things for him, taking up things he's interested in to be around him... and being available to him at anytime heshould show interest. This is kind of like trying to be his "best friend", but different since it's often still sexual.

Being a very commercial American, he gives hints in his email of how to not scare the guys off to start with. But then you need to pay a dollar-fortune and buy his book and learn all there is to know. It's just below my dignity to buy any of that rubbish. I can tell you already what they say:

• Don't ask questions
• Be difficult and busy
• Make him come to you, don't call him
• Don't put pressure
• Be sexy and happy at all times

Why does this whole dating thing have to be so bloody complex? As far as I remember, when I met my ex husband, I never thought of anything like this! We just liked eachother from the start and it was all nice and dandy and loving and great. Was it because we were only 20-22 years old? Or was it because, we were just right for eachother?