Due Diligence in the Wild West

The finding-faults-game is not very problematic with mr Cosby. He takes care of this himself. Without me even being close to asking, he points out all that is not so good with him. That he has been a party-DJ for 10 years (and still very living that kind of lifestyle), that he has no property investments, that he doesn´t earn a lot of money from the music production business, that he has a problem to take on a "serious" (i.e office-) job and he is too comfortable with the (not-bad-at-all) money he makes from the DJ-ing. All in all, he is not an ideal husband in a classical way. And to make up for this, he has presented me with his future 10-year plan and explained how he is about to change his life and get into Venture Capitalism. Not that I have given it THAT much thought yet, but thank you for the information darling.

And this is clearly a cultural difference. In Jolly Ol´England, there is still a classic picture that the man needs to have a proper and stable income to support the family. And even if this maybe holds true in certain aspects in Sweden, it´s not such a pressure on men to support the family. With maternity and paternity leaves from the government and a child-care system that works and is not too expensive, of course creating a family in my mother country is no big challenge. And I am not glorifying the state-heavy, tax-infected Swedish system, don´t get me wrong, but there is clearly a reason why Swedish women have the highest birthrate in Western Europe.

So, thank you Mr Cosby for giving me the cards on the table. I guess we will just have to see how the business-ventures are proceeding and then decide if we should stay together or not. Or? Or how about getting to know eachother first? Maybe I am missing something out, maybe I am too Swedish? Do English women always do Due Diligences on their dates? If so, pls send me an Excel-template that I can use.

Until then darlings, I say as mr Kravitz: Let love rule.