A Spinster's love message in X-mas time ;-)

Coming to think more and more of the panic I feel is happening to some people around me. Panic about meeting the right person, or rather panic of not meeting the right person. All my friends are between 30 and 35 and most likely we will live until we are around 80. Possibly even longer. Up until we were 20 we were more or less children. This means that we have only been looking for this "right" person for maybe 14% of our lifetimes. During a time when we have also grown up, educated ourselves, moved maybe to new countries, and been not very "landed". And what are the likelyhood of bumping into this super-right person in such a short time? Plus, some and myself included, have even met someone "right" but grew out of this person and is now ready for number 2! Amazing.

I am a firm believer that it's all a matter of luck. Being in the right place, at the right time, being in the right mood and meeting someone who is also right and in the right timing, is just a very complicated equation! I'm not saying it will not happen, on the contrary, it happens all the time, but it should not be taken for granted. It is not a human right to find love. It's a bonus and should be regarded as a wonderful gift, not as a given. And it makes me always very disturbed when people seem to be bitter about this.

The times in my life that I have been truly unhappy is when I have relied on only one pilar to hold me up: love from a boyfriend/husband. I know, this sounds like sloppy kharma-bla bla, but it's true. Love IS all around and the biggest love is loving yourself. Everything else is secondary.

God bless