Sunshine Stories

Before I write anything else, I would just like to point out that I am actually a very happy person. Just because I have a blog that is focussed on the single life, doesn´t mean I spend my whole life thinking of men, finding men or why it doesn´t work out -- believe it or not! It just fascinates me a bit, this love seeking and finding process. And it´s such a complicated matter that I just cannot help analyzing it. Because it´s really not only about love seeking, there is a lot of finding going on around us. Here is a little collection of Sunshine Stories.

A fantastic friend of mine in Stockholm, a top athlete, super energic, beutiful, blond, sexy, sweet, kind, with a great flat, interesting job, sharp brain, great family and friends, was single from when she split up with her college romance (and big love) when she was around 25 and she is now turning 37 in a few months. Her single-ship was partly very unhappy. She was in despair and lost her hope a number of times and I really didn´t know how to help her. In all honesty, she really did everything right. She is multi-athlete, she meets a lot of men in her sports, she has a big crowd of friends and friends of her brother is always around for parties that she arranges. But still, Mr Right kept at a distance. And a few years ago when we were talking about this, she said that she knew EXACTLY what kind of man she was looking for. I told her to be more open-minded and that she needed to think out of her box etc. But she was adament -- and told me that she would rather be single than compromise. And she did the right thing, for sure. I got a long email from her last week with a picture of her lovely man since six months back, and I can just see and tell from what she writes and from the picture, that he is soooo right for her. And it warms my heard immensly. It´s like the hand that fits the glove. And it was so worth the wait and the men she rejected.

Another story is about another friend in Stockholm. When I just came out of my marriage and very uninterested in men, she had come to the point when she was just fed up. She had then been single for 7 years, she was 31 and nothing turned out well. She was active, she arranged trips with friends, she was always out and about and she really enjoyed her life. And there sure was no shortage of men, she was dating and seeing guys but nothing just turned out right. And she also fell into despair and slight depression. Every time she met someone, something was just wrong because she also knew SO WELL what kind of man she would live with. But that fantastic MATCH never happened and again she was told to be more possibility oriented and positive. But she got so fed up that she decided to "give up". Not entirely but just leave the whole thing for a while. She started focussing on feeling good about herself, getting her health in place and just have fun with friends. And a few months later, when she was just being happy and strong, her true love just entered her life. And the funny thing with this story is that they had been colleagues many years earlier and were in the same group of friends, but never really seen eachother. Then suddenly something just struck them and they are one of the most perfect couples I´ve ever met in my life. And it also warms my heart.

So, a couple of positive stories today this rainy October morning. Common denominators:
1. Long time of single-hood and falling into despair and hopelessness
2. Both persons are ready to give and take true love, not to have confirmation or sex or because "I don´t know how to be single"
3. The image of "Mr Perfect" is clear and outspoken and no compromises (of really important and fundamental levels) are made to this
4. Meeting the right person is just RIGHT to start with. No hassle, no problems, no difficulties -- it´s just right!

LOVELY!